• idiomaddict@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Fr who responds to a person who’s not expressing grief how you expect “you didn’t like your mom?”

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      Maybe that’s his way of saying people assumed he had a bad relationship with her? I don’t think he meant they literally said “you didn’t like your mom.”

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      I’m sure it was a legitimate curiosity from ye old on-the-spectrum stage hand, not a bit of malice in it.

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        I’m on the spectrum. We can put our curiosity away and not hurt people who are trying to be at work during a tragedy.

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          My apologies Herr Maddict who speaks for all the spectrum, great arbitrator of all autistics, one who decides all rights and wrongs. Clearly that stage hand trying to console Trejo was in fact an asshole. Thanks for clearing it up for me, I apologize for taking up your valuable time.

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            That was an overly sarcastic response to someone’s self-centered view. Gotta chuckle at you both for emotionally speaking what comes to mind without thinking, something that can happen with people on the spectrum.

            Anyway, some are lucky enough to respond correctly, automatically, others not so much. If someone on the spectrum has the presence of mind to consider the individual and situation, they will probably respond correctly and tactfully.

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            lol, okay, that’s an interpretation. If you can find me an autistic person who’s working with celebrities and doesn’t know how to stifle their curiosity, I’m all ears. That’s the sort of thing you get fired for or educated about way before you get to work with Danny Trejo. I was trying to speak to the spectrum aspect of it and the fact that we exist in this world and should be held to the same standards of not poking at grieving strangers that everyone else is. If you didn’t know that asking people who recently lost a parent if they disliked that parent is rude, you know now, which is good for everyone.

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    Hypothetically, if Trejo ever gets senile and praises fascists like all my other heroes growing up then in that moment I’ll know this world is a lost cause. Trejo is the last canary.