I’m thinking about proposing to my girl, however we both think diamonds as a standard is stupid and overrated, we both prefer much more colorful and comparatively cheaper gemstones like rubies and sapphires, but I’m having trouble finding a good place for that, I’ve never done this before, any ideas?

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    I have a moissonite ring, but it looks very much like a diamond. If you’re looking for something different, I would check antique stores or estate sales to look for a second hand gem. You can always have it put in a new setting if the ring is too dated for your tastes.

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      My wife’s engagement ring is also Moissanite and she loves it. It looks like a $20k ring to anyone but a jeweler (honestly I regret going with as big of a stone as I did, but my wife loves it), but I “only” spent $2.5k on it

      Plus Moissanite is harder and has a higher brilliance than diamond. A great alternative for people who don’t want to waste money on diamonds, but still want a “traditional” ring

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        I’m holding a 25mm moissanite that I bought for fun because it’s the roughly the same size as the hope diamond and it was $250 without a certificate. There’s a ton of competition now so prices have started dropping. A 10mm is ~3.9ct and the loose gem is < $100 on the first link. The rest is just the cost of the ring. Adding silicon to the carbon makes it slightly softer, but significantly less prone to cracking which was a common failure point.

        Regarding OPs original question, it’s very hard to verify things online. I’m barely a hobbyist so I can’t make recommendations, but be aware a lot of glass is shipped from India. The best you can do is be sure to read reviews and try to do your due difference. A lot of gems can be grown in labs but if you are investing in hardware, you are going to grow diamonds (moissanite) because they have the highest value. If you do opt into a traditional ring, certificates for moissanite are not the same as diamonds. They are closer to receipts to verify what it is, and you typically want to see the certificate id engraved into the stone.

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        Yes, my stone is a full carat because my husband wanted a round number I guess haha. Anyway, it does look rather opulent given our economic status, but I Iike it and it fit his budget.

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          I honestly can’t remember the exact size, but in retrospect it definetely looks a bit gawdy by my usual standards 😅

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        It still seems fucking insane to me to spend 2,5k on a ring but you do you.

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          It’s a piece of jewelry she wears literally every day of her life and she loves it - I’d say we got our money’s worth even by now, let alone over the coming decades