Thank you very much for the polite response.

This looks either AI generated, or AI “restored” to a cartoonish level. OP, can you provide some background to this image?

I had that happen when I was running errands a couple of days ago. Barely made it home in time.

Yep. Detroit has this, too.

TIL somebody besides my wife thought that Roy Orbison was blind.

I dated somebody whose family used that as a synonym for farting. So thank you for taking it outside!

I didn’t write the above, but it might be recoil. For example, a 12 gauge kicks a lot more than a 5.56.

I try to separate the art from the artist. It reminds me a lot of the controversy surrounding Ryan Adams. What a brilliant songwriter.

Same here. The bodies in the trunk, and the person who was responsible really stuck with me.

I have found the opposite in rural Michigan (northern US). My wife’s family has a vacation home, and skilled tradespeople are slightly cheaper around there. The place is more than an hour from any large towns, but 30 minutes from several small towns.

Maybe population is distributed differently here due to the way infrastructure is funded?

I came back here to say “It says right on their home page that it’s open source.” :-) I installed it & I’m running the importer now to see how well it handles large numbers of notes. Thanks much for the tip!

That is the one that I edited. You don’t see the same thing I do? (Thanks again for following up, by the way!)

I edited my post - thank you!

Good point.

No but you got the city right. 🙂

Titties is spelled with two t’s.

I have a similar experience, but even with people in southern Ohio and Kentucky (where a lot of my current co-workers are), there is the opposite of a conservative tech-bro trend.

Where are you? My experience has been that most developers are obsessed with programming and politically liberal. I’m in the midwest, though, so maybe things are not so rosy on the west coast. It could also just be one person’s experience, but I have worked at a lot of different places in the last 35 years.

You aren’t “just toxic”, but there are some ADHD traits that are probably behind both the original behaviors and your reactions to your partner calling you out for them. The number one thing is probably feelings of shame because you forget important things, or because you impulsively say or do things that you later regret. Shame and regret are very unpleasant feelings, and it is normal to want to avoid them by justifying your actions.

I would suggest trying to buy yourself a little space when your partner calls out your bad behaviors. Take a deep breath, and maybe say “I’m sorry. I’m trying to get better at that.” Or, “I’m sorry, I didn’t think that through or I wouldn’t have said it.”

The two things that drive most negative behaviors are distractibility (which is why you forget important things) and impulsivity (which is why you say or do things that are hurtful, but realize it after the fact). Medication can help with both, but it takes a lot of work to reduce the impact to the point where it’s not a big negative in your life.

Having a good reminder system can help with forgetfulness. Every phone comes with a calendar and a to-do list. Keep using them and understand that it is a whole set of skills to use them effectively, so it’s going to take time until you get good at it.

Impulsivity is a bit tougher to overcome. A few simple breathing techniques, and a regular meditation practice can go a long way toward reducing that, though. (Meditation doesn’t mean becoming a Buddhist. Just using one of the meditation apps on your phone every day will have a cumulative effect over the course of weeks and months.)

I couldn’t read this article. It is badly a need of a spelling and grammar check.