The trans community is very diverse and many subcultures develop within it. Blahaj memes are just sort of like a marker of one of those subcultures (“Reddit sapphic skirt goes spinny” vibes) which is not bad but doesn’t come off as particularly general purpose (and maybe that’s by design). That said, maybe we can work something out.

It’s a nuanced and very “online trans discourse” topic basically. I’m afraid to even write this, lest it be interpreted as me “picking sides”. But I would add it’s just another iteration of the same stuff people have been arguing about in Usenet communities since the 90s.

Yeah but you should see our discord servers, boards, hashtags, and subreddits (previously: forums, irc channels, and Usenet)… talking about migration here from what is likely a much more diverse pool of people

I just. The girls are always fighting basically. They might not be fighting here right now. But if you bring the girls the fighting begins over like fuckin’. The most petty stuff you’d be amazed if you’re not trans yourself

Anyway I made a post on blahaj.zone we’ll see if they’re open to it especially as a first landing zone for Reddit refugees

I’m definitely checking it out! I do believe there’s probably a happy little bubble of people in there of the sort I personally tend to vibe with. But I’ve vibed with a lot of different types in the community over the past 20 years

The main thing it’s taught me is that when people strongly advertise as one particular type of trans they tend to be hostile toward other types of trans who they see as harming them.

Or other times they pleasantly surprise me and I observe other factions sling mud at them regardless & nobody gets anywhere lmao

I think Discord users will move wherever they need to in order to survive impending bans.

So I take your word for it sort of. The name itself of referencing blahaj will turn off a lot of transsex users and it’s a nuanced conversation I could write a book about. Transmedical is also clearly viewed as synonymous with gatekeeping as per someone camping the name.

Whatever a persons personal views on internal trans politics may be, the community is very diverse and there’s lots of infighting. For hosting medical information I think it needs to be a place where regardless of which faction people come from they’re not afraid of being banned unless they are explicitly harming others (not just disagreeing with them)

Maybe if I hang around longer and get to know them my concerns will be moot. I’m open to that and am fully willing to admit I showed up 2 days ago/am only going off vibes (but so will incoming users be going off vibes)

That’s why I edited my comment to advertise it at the top later (it’s me who posted the long ass Lemmy comment)

Though I would add I am still new to the fediverse and am not familiar with the owners of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I also think in the long run we need instances that are heavily vetted and defederated from the main instances. Growing from private Discord server alliances seems like a healthier option in the long run