Like autistic people get to be autistic. That’s a word, and it has meaning. Someone can be autistic because it’s a type of person (spectrumy type). In my opinion, ADHD sucks as an identifying term. It’s 3 letters, one repeated. It means nothing as it is spelled and can’t be owned as an identity because they’re letters, not a word. “I’m adhudd.” The initials include “disorder” in it. That sucks. Autistic people don’t go around saying, “Hi, I’m austically disordered,” cause that’s not accepting. Is there a term that is smooth and not judgmental for ADHD? Maybe we can take Aspergers since it got dropped, but add the ‘d’ to get “Adspergers”. Nah, that’s stupid af. What about multibrained? I feel multibrained because I act like I’ve got multiple brains running in my head doing their own thing all at the same time, and I bounce around them based on who knows what.

What? Oh, yes…I’ll have the spaghetti bolog-knees. Do you guys have red pepper…crushed red pepper? Yeah, thanks. Cool. I like your name tag. Is that really your name? Samsquatch?..oh! It’s Samuel, but you changed it to Samsquatch! I love Trailer Park Boys. Fuck off, Leahy! Yeah. Sorry. I got excited.

Okay. So…um, is there a descriptive word for ADHD that isn’t ADHD?

    • theneverfox@pawb.socialEnglish
      7·
      6 days ago

      Agreed. It’s like they start looking for confirmation, so they start expecting and noticing every little mistake. Or they don’t see it, and give you unsolicited speeches about how they struggle to focus to and you just need discipline… In fact, you should stop taking your meds

      I just tell people without telling people. “I can’t sit still for too long, I have to walk”, “the music/videos and stim toys help me focus”, “my thought process is weird, I know that sounds unrelated but it makes sense to me”, “I know you’re writing up a list, I need to take notes to process what you’re saying and if I don’t doodle I can’t pay attention to this boring ass meeting”

      If you take on the label, they don’t see you as managing your symptoms, they look for the cracks. If you explain your compensation strategies and areas of difficulty, they usually are pretty supportive and will even respect the level of thought you put into it

      • recklessengagement@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        5 days ago

        “They look for the cracks” is an excellent way to put it.

        I don’t even tell friends, except those who are very close. Too often, it changes the way people treat me.

      • C A B B A G E@feddit.ukEnglish
        2·
        5 days ago

        Conversely I’ve met people who were diagnosed as adults and who then blame everything they do on their ADHD - “you know, now everything makes sense about me!”.

        Ditto with Autism, to be fair - you don’t get to excuse being an arsehole just because you’re not neurotypical, Dave.

  • Possibly linux@lemmy.zipEnglish
    9·
    6 days ago

    It is not cool or trendy to be Autistic…

    I know that you probably don’t mean it that way but I do think it is important to see people for who they are.

    • DankOfAmerica@reddthat.comOPEnglish
      2·
      6 days ago

      I’m like 95-100% filtered at first to avoid upsetting anyone. Very rarely, I’ll make it to 0% unfiltered with only the most accepting and trustworthy people.

    • DankOfAmerica@reddthat.comOPEnglish
      11·
      6 days ago

      I feeeeeel…I ☝FEELLLLLL☝ (pls don’t get mad at me) like when I tell people ahead of time of my neurodivergence, they take it as me coming up with an excuse to be rude in the future.

        • DankOfAmerica@reddthat.comOPEnglish
          1·
          6 days ago

          Everyone has met an asshole that says they’re neurodivergent to get away with purposefully being an asshole. When you go up to them and tell them you’re neurodivergent, look at their eyes. If they squint, what they just heard is that that you’re an asshole.

  • Rajtinka@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    6 days ago

    I generally refer to myself as ASD (also has disorder in it) to describe my autistic traits and ADD for my ADHD. Sometimes I use Neuro divergent or ND if I’m feeling lazy.

    • Orize@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      6 days ago

      That doesn’t fit well, because a person with adhd doesn’t want to be assumed has autism. It would be an unnecessary hurdle for the interpreter to get past lol